Should I Stay or Should I Go?
By: Brittany Priore
Should I stay or should I go (run)? That is the internalized debated question.
Staying away and running away are two very different things. I have a friend who strongly believes that running from negative situations will only hinder our growth. She says that forcibly staying in a difficult situation teaches you how to conduct yourself around those kinds of people -- to handle them if you will. She says choosing to run from the situation, rather than staying and growing from it, will leave you running in circles for the rest of your life because you are bound to meet someone like them again.
I partially agree with my friend. I don't believe we should run when we feel uncomfortable. Discomfort sprouts growth and that's the purpose of life. Some of our most uncomfortable situations will bring us to our most elevated ones.
But choosing to run from a situation that is mentally exhausting and has you pushing every limit to the max isn't healthy or good for growth either. Some situations are simply toxic. The learning comes afterward when you are removed from the situation and can reflect on it as a whole -- rather than in pieces with each passing day that it's currently playing out.
We should always be mindful of our actions and thoughts, especially when we begin to feel discomfort, fear, or exhaustion. Are you running or staying away because it's easier, comfortable, or relieving? Those are all very different reasons on why you should stay or why you should go.
Every situation warrants a different tactic. Only you know what you want and what you need. Ask yourself those questions and see if staying is the right choice or if leaving is.
If you are in a domestic, mentally, verbally, or emotionally abusive relationship -- you should seek help immediately. This solely pertains to individuals who find themselves in stressful, uncomfortable, and tiring situations -- not dangerous ones.